Wednesday, January 19, 2011

The First Six Weeks of Otis

These past six weeks have flown by with the holidays and my birthday coming this weekend, it's all been a crazy blur.  Tony was able to take the first week of Otis' (outside of the womb) life off work.  My mom stayed with us for a few days following Tony's return to work, which was a huge help.  Life is challenging and extremely rewarding.  Otis is starting to smile while awake, it's the most incredible smile!

Having a newborn is tough, I really had no idea how tough.  The past six weeks have been the most difficult and most beautiful times.  My nights consist of a couple hour stretches of sleep with an hour to two hours of awake time (changing Otis, feeding Otis, burping Otis, getting Otis to go back to sleep).  Some nights are more difficult than others and just when I think he's on some kind of "schedule," he proves me wrong.  I've had a few nights and mornings when crying is the only thing I can do.  I absolutely love Otis and he's still the most beautiful creature I've laid my eyes on. 

As of today, Otis weighs 8lbs. 13oz., almost two pounds over his birth weight.  Not sure how long he is, but he's definitely grown!!!!

Here are some highlights from the past six weeks...

Week 1 (December 8-14)
 
Just a minute or two after Otis was born


Grandma Marsha & Otis




Nonni Bev & Otis

Gramma Debbie & Otis


Cousin Yona & Otis


Uncle Randy & Otis


 
Grandpa Randy, Grandma Marsha & Otis

Otis' First Restaurant Outing

Otis' First Sponge Bath

Otis' Little Feet






Lacy & Otis

Week 2 (December 15-21)


Baby Manicure


Week 3 (December 22-28)

Gelsey, Xander, Melissa, Dylan, Melanie & Otis
Tony, Melanie, Nonni Bev & Otis

Auntie Nancy & Otis



Melanie, Nonni Bev and Otis



Week 4 (December 29-January 4)

Babs & Otis



Week 5 (January 5-11)




Grandpa Randy, Grandma Marsha & Otis
Scot & Otis
Nonni Bev & Otis


Week 6 (January 12-18)



Auntie Molly & Otis

Auntie Xochitl & Otis


Baby Pictures of Otis' Parents
Baby Melanie

Baby Melanie

Baby Tony - We're in the process of hunting down an earlier one

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Babytastic!





Well, it (which we don't have to call it an "it" anymore) has arrived! Otis Stone Stumbaugh was born on December 8th at 11:03pm. 6lbs 15oz 20 inch long baby burrito of fun!

Melanie's water broke at 3:30am and started having contractions about 30 minutes later. Poppa Stumbaugh did about two hours of "sleep monitoring" before ringing the fire alarm and called the necessary necessaries later in the AM. Melanie's folks were on the road from Oregon what seemed like within the hour:) The midwife told us to hang out and not call until we hit the 511, which meant the contractions would be less than 5 minutes apart, lasted more than one minute, and for one hour.

We spent the day laboring at the house, practicing deep breathing and hypobirthing techniques. Melanie had a hard time eating, she went the entire day with only some yogurt, a bite of spelt toast, a few bites of plain white rice and a cashew bar. Melanie made a multi-hour long birthing playlist with super droning ambient music that helped the relaxed mood.

I called the midwife around 3pm as the contractions starting getting more frequent and intense. She told us to hang in there, to run a bath and try and slow them down and hopefully Melanie could get a nap in, as it would be a marathon day with much needed rest. By this point I had to help her walk around the house and kept her propped up for vertical contractions. The bath was comforting and Melanie tried to sleep with little success.

Our midwife had suggested that post-bath we try having her labor while switching between sitting upright and walking. This way more pressure is put on the cervix and assists in speeding up the process. After an hour of this exhausting exercise the contractions got really intense, we decided it was time to go over to the birthing center.

The head midwife Roseanne told us it would be 30 minutes before she could get there. Melanie's contractions had intensified so much that we were a little worried that our baby would be born in the birthing center parking lot on the hood of our car. Luckily that didn't happen though:) Roseanne arrived and after examining Melanie she said everything was looking fine and she was 8cm dilated, the baby was gonna be here soon! Xochitl arrived with some provisions and called the grandparents to meet at the birthing center. Xochitl ended up being a life saver as the nurse was going to be late and Roseanne needed an extra pair of hands to assist getting things prepped for delivery.

At this point Melanie was doing so good given the feeling of discomfort. She kept breathing deep and looked as if in another world. Roseanne filled the birthing tub, or "hippie bird bath", with luke-warm water. I think we got in the tub around 10:30pm, I know I liked it:)

The families had arrived in the waiting room and Xotchitl brought them updates on our situation. Melanie was fully dilated at this point and was ready to pop. The whole process was pretty surreal, watching the top of my baby's head appear and disappear into the void was way better than anything I've seen on the Discovery Channel. Melanie was still keep cool and collected, a few contractions seemed to get the best of her but only briefly. One last guttural yelp and the entire head came popping out. Seeing his head sitting under water got me a little nervous. I knew it was fine but the fresh parental instinct to stop my baby from drowning was hard to control. Soon after the shoulder came out, that white gravy covered baby was flopping in his mama's arms.

We got cleaned up and let the Grandparents w/Mr. Macphee come in. The Grandma's "oooed" and "awwwed" while taking prohibited flash photography. My Dad told a story of when I pooped in a shoe. Sabin got me a much needed cup of coffee as my own general fatigue was catching up with me. Melanie was taking her victory lap, her energy revitalized and alert, hard to believe she just had a baby looking so good like that.

After lot's of paperwork and mini-baby tutorials with the nurse, we got home around 3am we think. Otis is doing great, making cute little squirrel noises and sleeping like a baby, yup, pun intended.

Much thanks for all the love and support from our families, our super-mega-fantastic friends, and special thanks to the Macphee's for being solid during this whole process.

Love,

Tony Melanie and Otis Stumbaugh

aka Tometis or Melantotis or Otilonie

Thursday, November 18, 2010

The Final Stretch

As of today, our baby is considered full term, (thirty seven weeks). Which means if the baby were to arrive today, he/she would be just fine. I'm still feeling really good, a little more tired. Doing simple chores around the house make me need to take breaks after a short period of time. I'm still getting a lot of sleep at night, with minimal interruption. I'm taking advantage of it while I can!

With Xochitl's help, the baby's room is painted. My parents were here last weekend, they were a huge help in getting projects done around the house, including getting the baby's room ready. I'm feeling much better prepared for our baby's arrival. There are very few items left on the list of what we'll need for the first six weeks.
Tony and I have been attending hypnobirthing classes, we have one more next Tuesday. Tony is my birth companion, so it will be up to him to give me hypnosis prompts while I'm in labor. Our hypnobirthing instructor has been amazing and she is very patient with us as we're sometimes not the best students when it comes to homework.

Last weekend a group of about twenty women gathered at our house for my Mother Blessing. Coordinated by Lacie, with help from Jane, it was a lovely night! All the women brought a bead for me. All of the beads are being strung together for me to bring with me to the birth center when I go into labor. This will provide me with support from many wonderful women on our baby's birthing day!

Last month a group of about eighty of our friends and family members gathered in Howarth Park in Santa Rosa for our baby's welcome hootenanny party. Complete with an Aztec Blessing Ceremony (thanks to Nena and Freddy Sanchez) and performances by Jenny Robinson, Jeni Fujita (with George Cochrane) and two dj sets by Sig and Xochitl. A truly magnificent day with yummy food in abundance!


Tony and I are settling in nicely to our new house, it's been just over a month and a half. Still feels a little bit like a dream as we both keep talking about just how much we LOVE it! We still have some projects to complete and decorating to do, but for the most part we're settled in.


Probably won't be posting another blog update until after our baby arrives. So until then...

love,
~melanie (and Tony).

Monday, September 20, 2010

New Jobs, New House, New Trimester


Last Thursday, I entered the third trimester and I believe my belly has increased by almost double since then. My belly is big enough now that I can give the baby light squeezes, which I do on a regular basis. I always thought being able to feel a baby moving inside would be creepy and alien, but it's way cooler than I anticipated, I find it reassuring and fascinating.

I've been asked by multiple people if we're registered anywhere for our baby needs. The registry is listed in our baby hootenanny invite, but maybe it's just too buried. Anyway, here it is:

Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/baby/1V48M35QFLS3B
AND
Deposit A Gift: http://stumbaughbaby.mydagsite.com/

If you're wanting information about our welcome baby party on October 17th, it can be found on the Deposit A Gift site, under "Event Details" or in the last post on our blog.

Speaking of our registry....
Someone(s) bought our baby their infant car seat and had it sent to our apartment. We have no idea who it came from. Thank you very much to whoever sent it, please let us know who you are so we can properly thank you.

Last Thursday we also signed official loan docs. Our mortgage broker says we're set for funding tomorrow or Wednesday. We'll be getting the keys to our new house on Wednesday or Thursday. I'll spend Thursday and Friday cleaning the house in preparation for our big move on Saturday. So far we haven't received many positive responses for folks being available to help on Saturday, we're sure it will work out though. People are super busy these days, which we totally understand. We have large pieces of furniture that all need to be moved on Saturday, in five different locations. At least all five of those locations are within 45 minutes of our house!

Tony started his job at Whole Foods about a week and a half ago, so far he's loving it! Turns out Whole Foods is a great company to work for. I worked my last day for the landscape architect last Wednesday and am so relieved to be working full time from home now.

We went to an exceptionally beautiful wedding in Mendocino County on Saturday. Congratulations Matt and Leila Madrone! Their ceremony was genuine, heartfelt and very emotional. Still feeling extremely honored to have been present. Wow!!!!

I'm feeling pretty overwhelmed by the amount of stuff that we need to take care of before our baby arrives, kind of makes my head swim...wish us luck!

love,
~melanie (and tony).

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Welcome Baby Stumbaugh Hootenanny

The evite for our baby's welcoming party was sent out by Xochitl today, but just in case you have a difficult time with evite or something screwy happened and you didn't receive it. Here's all the details. If you want to come, either rsvp on the evite or send an email to: orangemelon@gmail.com

Welcome Baby Stumbaugh Hootenanny and Country Potluck!

Sunday October 17, 2010
Starting at 1pm
Ending at 5pm

It's a potluck, please bring something to share and let us know what you're bringing so we don't end up with ten versions of potato salad or a ton of hummus.

Here's the link to the potluck spreadsheet:
https://spreadsheets.google.com/ccc?key=0AmNoBrlyi9uRdDBwWEk1RFhpQVF1U2RZV0E5TC0ta2c&hl=en&authkey=CPC-x_oB

If you'd rather not deal with the google spreadsheet, send an email to Melissa at melissimo@gmail.com, letting her know what you'd like to bring and she'll update the spreadsheet for you.

Please mark your dish if it fits into any "special needs" food categories (vegan, vegetarian, gluten-free, etc.), thank you!

We're encouraging everyone to bring their own plates/bowls/cups/utensils, for the sake of the environment. We will have some extras on hand, but please bring your own and if you happen
to have some extra camp meal necessities and wouldn't mind bringing them, that would be great too! If you do bring your own for sharing, please write your name on the bottom just in case we need to return them to you.

There won't be any games...aside from bocce on the massive lawn! If you have other lawn type games, please feel free to bring them. You won't be subjected to any "baby shower" type games.

There will be music, djs and a performance or two.

Children are welcome and encouraged to come! There's an amazing playground very close to the picnic site.

Here's where it's taking place:

Howarth Park
Gazebo Picnic Site
630 Summerfield Road
Santa Rosa

If you've never been to Howarth Park, check out their website:
http://ci.santa-rosa.ca.us/departments/recreationandparks/parks/cityparks/neparks/Pages/howarthpark.aspx

More than anything we want our family and friends to join us for a celebratory day in the park!

If you feel so inclined to help out with our baby needs, we are registered at the following two sites:

Amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/baby/1V48M35QFLS3B
AND
Deposit A Gift: http://stumbaughbaby.mydagsite.com/

Friday, September 3, 2010

Can you believe it's been over two years?

Tony and I started looking for a house to purchase back in March of 2008. We started off looking in the Santa Cruz mountains and after figuring out there's not much in the Santa Cruz area in our price range, we did some major soul searching and decided to try our luck living in Sonoma County. We've been looking in the Santa Rosa area for almost a year and a half and finally...

Our mortgage broker gave us the green light on giving our 30-day notice at our apartment today, which we did. Looks like we're moving into our new house midway through this month. We're scheduling our big move for the weekend of September 25-26. If anyone out there is interested, able and available that weekend, we could sure use some help! I'm not going to be of much assistance in this move as I won't be able to lift many boxes. This will be the first time all of our belongings (which are currently in five different locations) will be housed in the same place for over a year and a half! If you're interested and available, please let one of us know, we'll provide some beer and food to those who volunteer their time to our worthy cause.

There's some minor work that needs to be done to our new house, painting, floors (master bath needs new tiles and living room hardwood floors need to be sanded and possibly stained?), minor electrical, minor plumbing. If you are skilled in these ways or know someone reputable and reasonably priced who is, please let us know.

After working for Beckmanns Bakery since the beginning of 2003, Tony is moving on! He's accepted a position at the Whole Foods in Petaluma as the Bakery Team Leader. He starts next week. We're very excited about him having a local job, not making the two and a half hour commute down to Santa Cruz and he won't be gone from home two to three days a week. He's sad to be leaving Beckmanns, they've been great to him and us. He's happy to be taking on a new challenge career-wise.

Not much has changed in our pregnant world. I'm still feeling good. My belly's getting bigger and my passenger is still cruising around like crazy. What else can I say?

The evite for our welcome baby party will be sent out by Xochitl this weekend. If you're evite "challenged" be on the lookout for a blog post coming soon with all the details.

Until then...
Here we are at Plunge two weekends ago...



love,
~melanie (and tony).